SINGLE BUT NOT STUPID 137:
How many couples are truly really happy in their marriages? If they want to be sincere with you, many of them are just tagging along. If they had a choice today would they still marry that man, that woman?
Consider the Saturday event that went literally viral on the internet, especially among bloggers. Solomon Akiyesi, popular Nollywood actor, tried to play a fast one on his wife. He left his pregnant wife in Portharcourt under the guise that he was going to shoot a movie in Lagos only for it to be discovered that he was going to wed his pregnant mistress somewhere at a church in Lagos. News had got to his wife who travelled all the way from portharcourt and stormed the church, disrupting the wedding.
When asked why he did what he did, Solomon Akiyesi simply said, “My marriage wasn’t just it” He had dated that lady for 7 years before marrying her for another 6 years. Making it a total of 13 years. Yet what did he say? “My marriage wasn’t just it”
How many couples are in such mess today? Plenty of them. They marry for stupid reasons and after struggling for many years…either scream their issues , walk away or do something as desperate as Solomon Akiyesi.
You don’t have to marry and be frustrated.You deserve to be happy. Let me share with you some ideas that would help you not marry the wrong person.I will show you this by reverse logic
How To Marry The Wrong Person
1. MARRY A PERSON BECAUSE AGE IS NOT ON YOUR SIDE: Research has it that people who marry early have a higher chance of breaking up or staying frustrated in marriage.The reason is because are usually too young to know what they really want. Mature people who marry in their late 20s and early 30s tend to know what they want, having experienced life, and can make informed choices that make and keep them happy for longer periods. Never hurry into marriage because you think you are old. Remember that your age gives you the advantage of experience. Take your time and make your decision.
2.MARRY A GOOD PERSON INSTEAD OF A GODLY PERSON: There is a difference.A good person goes to church, a godly person is church! A good person is nice and not a believer of Christ, a godly person is of the faith. Marry christian, someone who believes in Jesus.Never compromise that.
3. MARRY A PERSON WHO TAKES ACOHOLIC DRINKS: Yes, you heard me very right. A person who drinks is a potential cheater(Most people who drink cheat on their spouse). The person is a waster( Since drinking is addictive the person will waste money and resources). The person is a potential fighter.In the case of the man, chances are that he would beat his wife. For the woman, she will verbally abuse her husband and fight him.
4.MARRY A PERSON WHO IS NOT GOING YOUR WAY: Love doesn’t keep a marriage. Yes it can start the process of marriage….but it is similar values that keeps a marriage together.
5.MARRY A PERSON BECAUSE HE HAS POTENTIAL OR RESOURCES: Don’t get it twisted. The so called potential spoken of by that man who wants to marry you is still that…words. The most important thing is not that the man has potential but THE CONVICTION IN YOU THAT GIVES YOU PEACE TO MARRY HIM WITH OR WITHOUT ANYTHING. Also, the fact that the fellow is rich today is not proof that he would remain rich….It boils down to convictions.
6 MARRY A PERSON YOU HAVE HAD PREMARITAL SEX WITH: 90 percent of the weddings aren’t really holy matrimony as they put on their wedding cards. God in His wisdom says to leave the bed undefiled. You in your so called wisdom say , ‘how can marry someone i have not tested?’. Tomorrow you want God to be involved in your marriage. How can that be? Do it God’s way….and you are marrying right. Do it the other way…and no matter how anyone wants to garnish it…you are marrying wrong.
There are a lot more. But feed on these for now.
SINGLE BUT NOT STUPID 