3AMAZING LADIES WHO RUN THEIR NGOS AND TOUCH LIVES

I first met Uduakabasi Okon in 2007 at a Mr. Biggs restaurant, Ikot Ekpene Road. Sincerely, at that period she was going through some relationship issues. But one thing that I remember about those eyes of hers was that they were determined eyes

Yes, she was a single mother. She had returned back from Lagos to Uyo , but she was determined to make something out of her life.After we talked, I told her to come to my office and I put her through some personal development training. She went through a program we call PROGRAM 7: THE 7 MOST IMPORTANT SKILLS IN LIFE. Uduakabasi Okon didn’t only go through this program she grew so fast and became a teacher of that program in PowerMinds Community.

Today, she runs a school called Elsha Vocational School, which has trained scores of people and runs a radio program in Uyo. People now call her mentor! It is amazing how a person whose life didn’t seem to have a direction suddenly had one.

Nikky-baby Israel Eshiet came for my special FACEBOOK LUNCH TIME OUT in February 11, 2012. After that, she stuck.She also was a single mother…but after an encounter with our program PROGRAM 7, she turned her mess into a message. Today, she runs an NGO called NIKKY & KIDS and is doing very well at it. Last year at the Women in Business Conference, she testified about how her life had truly made progress.

Eno-obong George always wanted to publish her book. She was directed to me.And we made it come true! But she didn’t stop there…she attended our program for Public Speakers and became certified as a speaker by PowerMinds.
Today, she runs her NGO in Oron, Akwa Ibom State and also runs a blog!

If they can , you too can!

Choose to be relevant.

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A LOVE LETTER OF FELA DUROTOYE(LEADING SPEAKER & CONSULTANT) TO TARA DUROTOYE( NIGERIA’S NUMBER 1 MAKE UP ARTIST & CONSULTANT)

Tara my darling,

Let me quickly confess that the idea to write you a public love letter is Debbie’s idea but I think it’s a great one! The lady’s is simply brilliant.

The contents of the letter on the other hand, come straight from my heart and I hope it pleasantly surprises you as much as the thought excites me as I write.

As my pen meets the paper, my mind travels back a few years to July 1999, just before we started dating. We were walking down together along Ilabere Avenue, Ikoyi, just as the sun was setting and we were playing those mind games “what do you want in a marriage?”

I remember how startled you were when I told you that I was going to be a HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL HUSBAND OF A HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL WIFE. At that time, you mentioned how the world thinks this is impossible, either the husband succeeds and the wife does not or vise-versa. I remember you told me how intimidated most men could be with highly successful wives. “But ………….”, you said with a smile.

Well my darling, time has proven me right …… Today, God has been fantastic and wonderful to us both and not only have we been blessed with great success in both our endeavors, I strongly believe that the greatest success we’ve seen so far is in the beauty of our marriage.

I mean every word when people ask me all over the world what my best decision has been and I reply “it’s following God’s instruction to ask you to marry me”. You are the greatest of God’s blessings to me ………….., more than life itself.

I keep saying that no other woman could have been meant for me. How many women do you know that would marry a guy in a boy’s quarter that serves as a bedroom and office at the same time? Not many, if any would
bet their life on a man who had not much more than a great vision of his future.

Tara darling, almost everyday you say that, I’m the best husband that any woman could have asked for but quite frankly, I think you make the best man that I can possibly be.

You’ve been my best friend since the first time we spoke while I was on that Phillips Consulting assignment to Bauchi. Four years later and you are still my best friend and closest confidant today. It’s amazing!

We’ve defied the law of “love fades away’. With you, it’s LOVE GROWS. I don’t know how you make me but I find myself waking up each day loving you more. You know it’s true every time I tell you that I love you greatly but I also like you amazingly. Remember the text I sent to you on how much just speaking to you on the phone is like oxygen? Perhaps, that’s why we call each other every hour we are not together.

(Just for your information dear reader, I just took a 3-minute break to take Tara’s call. She just wanted to hear my voice and tell me she loves me. See what I’m saying?) How could I not be a fantastic husband to such an incredible wife? I really don’t have any other options do I?

My darling, this is just to let you and the whole world know that the last three years since we’ve been married have been the most wonderful of my life and it keeps getting better each passing year. It is true when the Bible says, “the path of the righteous shines brighter and brighter …………” I love how we rededicate our vows each year. You are the best birthday present God ever gave me.

(Dear reader, Tara and I got married on my 30th birthday)
And how can I thank you enough for those two wonderful boys you’ve given me? I wonder what I’ll do when my daughter arrives. Get ready for unprecedented pampering.

I think with excitement of how we will grow old graciously together. Every time I think of you in your seventies, it puts a smile on my face. I’m sure you’ll be the funkiest 70-year old chick on the face of the planet. And you can be sure I’ll be the grooviest 76-year old bloke to ‘represent’.

Our children need to watch out for this ‘never grow old ‘ lovebirds they call their parents but the real trip for me is that we’re chosen to be role models for our future generations and I think we are well on our way to doing this.
You know I always say that a husbandman is a ‘Grooms’man, a gardener who tends his plant (his wife) into a beautiful vineyard. That is where a ‘Grooms’man differs from a ‘hunter’. The hunter takes a beautiful thing and kills it but the ‘Grooms’man takes a seed and tends it into an incredibly beautiful garden.

I am committed to working with God to bring out the best you that God has put in you. I am determined on seeing all of God’s dreams for you come to pass. Today, it’s House of Tara, in a short while, the WORLD OF TARA would soon become a reality, the multi-national empire that reveals the real beauty in every woman from the four corners of the world.

The WORLD OF TARA is truly a beautiful world where every woman has been Tara-rized into the beautiful queens and princesses that God made them to be. I wont reveal the strategy, but you can trust God it will be real.

It’s amazing how real you have remained despite all the hype. Stay real girl because the world hasn’t seen anything like what the Lord is about to do through your life. Mary Kay would rise to salute you on the day of rapture.
My darling, I remember that night in Jo’burg, South Africa back in October, 1999 standing alone in God’s presence and asking him about you. He had asked me to read through Proverbs 31 woman and as I read through, your image was being captured from the pages of the scriptures.

I’m convinced God had you in mind when he inspired the writing of Proverbs 31’s wife of noble character.

I am so happy to praise you publicly and say, “many women do noble things, but you surpass them all”. Indeed, Tara is a woman who fears the Lord, therefore, dear reader; join me to give her the reward she’s earned.
I love you baby, for the rest of my life.

With all my love in my heart,

Your husband,

SOLOMON AKEYESI’S DOUBLE MARRIAGE PALAVA!

Married actor, Solomon Akiyesi, left his 8 months pregnant wife in Port Harcourt and came to Lagos to marry his mistress, Uloma Agwu

This sounds like something out of a movie, but it’s real life. Let me tell you guys the story. Nollywood actor, Solomon Akiyesi married Lilian Akiyesi seven years ago, after the two dated for six years.
So they’ve been together for thirteen years. After trying for years to conceive, Lilian finally got pregnant last year…but unknown to her, her husband was having an affair with a Lagos based lady. (Lilian and Solomon are based in Port Harcourt).

Solomon’s Lagos based girlfriend got pregnant and the two started planning a wedding that was supposed to take place today April 13th. Fortunately for Lilian, she got wind of the wedding plans just days ago. And according to what her friend told me, Solomon sent money to Lilian just yesterday Friday April 12th and promised to return home next week. He told Lilian that he was in Lagos to shoot a movie.

When Lilian confirmed the wedding was really going to happen today, she contacted the police, took some family members and friends and stormed the wedding venue – Overcomers World Outreach located at Overcomers Close, off Ramlat Timson str, in Aguda, Surulere.

Lilian, who is eight months pregnant, stormed the church and managed to stop the wedding before the pastor could pronounce her husband and his mistress ‘husband and wife’. The police were later called to return sanity to the place

Romance versus Finance Fiasco

In 2008 when I published my first magazine,I was privileged to interview the CEO of GUFAX Micro-finance Bank, probably the biggest micro-finance bank in my state. His name?Mr. Uduak Udoh.He sat across on his executive settee and gave an animated stare that still remains indelible in my memory.

I asked about his wife, his family.
“Oh, marrying my wife was the best thing that ever happened to me”, he mused and an infectious chuckle escaped his mouth

“How so?”, I asked catching on on his enthusiasm.
“Very often, I have women who come to seduce me in this office. On all occasions, I laugh. I often ask them,’You want me now. Would you have wanted me a few years ago when I had nothing but dreams?’ “

His words did in deed catch my attention.

He continued:”You see, George Essien, when I proposed to my wife I had nothing. Yes, I was a graduate but unemployment made me sell rubber shoes for children at the Uyo market. When my father-in-law asked my wife what I was doing for a living, she simply said I was into the shoe business

” ‘Is that the kind of man you want to marry?You think I don’t know.He sells rubber shoes in Uyo market’, her father told her.My wife took the ridicule, believed in me and still got married to me. We have come a long way.”

I processed his thought, literally gulped and asked, ”So what would you say is the secret of your success?”

Uduak Udoh said to me,”Some one who believes in you and your dreams and is still willing to go all the way with you.I wouldn’t be here if my wife didn’t really stand by me. There were many rough roads. She is a major part of the secret of my success”

An interesting summary of the secret of his success, in deed.

Unfortunately, would we say that we still have women who can stick it out like that with men like Uduak Udoh’s wife?

This morning, I listened to a presentation on my Samsung Galaxy tab of Mr. Cosmos Maduka of the Coscharis group. He is the 5th richest man in Nigeria.His company is the sole distributor of BMW in Nigeria.He said, “I married at 19. Thank God for my wife. There were times when our land lord harassed us because we didn’t have rents. My business had failed, and my wife would go and work and bring N75 so that we can pay rents.Today I am worth Billions.I too have a story”

Such support!
Are there still women like that?

The 21st century woman doesn’t think like that. In Africa, especially in Nigeria, a man has to have everything – a car, a house, a good paying job, and at least N2 million or 6,000 pounds or 15,000 dollars to do a lavish wedding.

That seems to be every African man’s goal.
In essence, no finance, no romance.

Most of these men eventually marry late at an average age of 35 years; some at 40. At this point, now wealthy, these men go for younger ladies, those in their early 20s. Their female contemporaries, those of their generation, are ignored. Why? They have become too old or look old.

So the 21st century ladies who are bent on a man having it all soon get to a desperate point. Most of them end up marrying the available.

In 2011, I put up a post on facebook that generated over 200 comments, some abusive. Perhaps , you would want to read. Here goes: ‘I don’t pity those unmarried ladies who are past 30 and who are desperately going from one singles program after the other praying desperately for a husband. Their husbands came around when they were in their twenties but they were so blinded to see him”

Perhaps their standards were too high.
Perhaps they focused on their career, focusing on finance, forgetting romance.
Perhaps they were influenced by their parent.

I had hundreds of women attack me on that line, but some others agreed I was telling the truth.

Here is how most men think: If I have to make all the money in order to marry a woman, then the woman had better be a very young and the most voluptuously beautiful woman in the world. If I made all the money, and paid N5million for her bride price, then she should remain in the house as a house wife.

My take?
Be smart.

If you are a lady and see a man you can believe in and he asks for marriage, close the deal and build your life with him. For men, if you find a woman who is particular about what you have right now, walk away. Search for those who can dream and believe with you. If you don’t find, go about your business, make your millions and women will flock to you.

For one on one counseling with George Essien call 2348187133153